Hi there - I'm in need of a little boost. I've kept my chin up for 4 months planning our Sept wedding, it's going to be beautiful and everyone is looking forward to it, but I'm starting to wear under the strain of family and planning stress.
The planning process has been tough on me - my mom is very supportive but very emotional about my wedding and goes from high to low every week. She wants to be involved but isn't very organized, I've gently guided her through some things like interviewing florists so she feels like she's contributing but it's tough to keep up with her swings.
I have some wonderful friends who love to give advice that sometimes isn't the best for my fiancee and me and I'm weary of, "I appreciate your input. Good idea, but we have an idea that will work well for us."
Money was a bit tight in the beginning, so I chose a more economical dress over one that I love but cost a bit more and I regret this now...
We just did our registry (fun!) and bought our honeymoon tickets (Europe - yay!). I try to think about things like those that are fun and remember every day that I am going to marry my beautiful fiance who is so loving to me.
I am going to get a really long massage and manicure tomorrow so maybe a little R&R will help?
I can't do anything about the dress except buy a new one and that's a bit much I think. Does anyone have any advice of some books or anything serious or humorous that I can think about to help take away some of the stress?
I'm sorry that you're finding the planning stressful. It's hard to tell someone not to be stressed but there are many ways you can alleviate stress both physically and mentally. First, be sure you are eating healthy meals This is no time for starvation diets) and getting enough exercise. Exercise doesn't have to be strenuous or dull. Do something you enjoy. Take a walk in the park or play a game of ping pong. For emotional stress relievers try yoga or reading a good book. Check out Chicken Soup for the Bride's Soul. It's an interesting book chock full of true stories from other brides about their wedding planning experiences. It's got humor and sentiment.
It seems like you understand how to deal with friend's advice - good! Your mom is going to be emotional, most moms are at these times. Just try not to ride the emotional roller coaster with her. Don't let her moods affect yours.
Make a list of the absolute "must haves" for the wedding. Then list the things you would like and the things that could be expendable. Then when issues arise you can put them into a category. Try to be honest about what you really need and what items could be considered frills. Spend your money in the areas that count.
I wish you a peaceful and happy married life... Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
anon9
May 31, 2007, 10:25 AM
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For emotional stress relievers try yoga or reading a good book. Check out 