Experts, please help!!! I am definitely trying to avoid any semblance of impropriety at my wedding AND reception. Here's the issue at hand: the package I chose for my reception just happens to include a 1 hour (limited) hosted bar (specifically for cocktail HOUR). I was under the impression that the bar would be closed after the hosted hour ended, but I was wrong . The site (a very nice golf club) won't close the bar down, at which time it becomes, you guessed it ladies, a CASH bar . How do I avoid looking like a complete dolt and breaking every etiquette rule known to man (and woman)? I added in a punch fountain (in addition to the standards-coffee and tea), but my wallet cannot handle hosting a bar for 5 hours! What to do, what to do? Thanks in advance.
empressT
PS-the bar is located in a separate area that has lovely French doors. I was thinking maybe closing the doors after cocktail hour has ended will stem the flow of people heading up to the bar.
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Nancy Tucker
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Feb 23, 2006, 10:10 AM
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Dear EmpressT,
I'm guessing the bar cannot be closed because it's a part of the CC. If this is so, you can very easily close the doors to that area and people will hopefully accept the punch, coffee and tea that you are offering. If they choose to go to the bar for a drink, that is not your issue at all. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
expertplanner
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Feb 23, 2006, 10:23 AM
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I agree. It is not you that is hosting the cash bar. Hopefully, closing the doors will help.
Best wishes, Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
Etiquette Now
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Feb 23, 2006, 11:07 AM
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I agree also. Plus, perhaps there is some way to block off that door, visually, so your guests will know that the cocktail hour is over. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
empressT
Feb 23, 2006, 11:29 AM
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Thank you Nancy, Rhonda, and Rebecca. As always your written words soothe my angst! The doors have very nice gossamer type draping that conceals the room, so I don't think it'll be too much of an issue once cocktail hour is over and everyone is "herded" into the dining area (my FH and I aren't big-time drinkers, the occasional glass of wine for me or beer for him, and the crowd is representative of our tastes). You all have been lifesavers again. Thanks very much!
No cash bar at my wedding!
. The site (a very nice golf club) won't close the bar down, at which time it becomes, you guessed it ladies, a CASH bar 
. How do I avoid looking like a complete dolt and breaking every etiquette rule known to man (and woman)? I added in a punch fountain (in addition to the standards-coffee and tea), but my wallet cannot handle hosting a bar for 5 hours! What to do, what to do? Thanks in advance. 
