Out of town bride and groom have wedding planning blues
My FH and I moved to a new state a few years ago and have no family anywhere near us. We're having our wedding here in July, so all of our closest friends and family will be traveling here for the weekend wedding. The thing is, I'm feeling like I'm missing out on a lot of the pre-wedding bliss and getting all of the wedding planning stress since there won't be any engagement party, bridal shower or bachelorette party. FH is traveling back home in May when his friends will be throwing him his bachelor party. I'm not a greedy gift wanter (I would prefer gift-less parties and wedding), I just want to feel like people are celebrating our upcoming union. Currently, most people are acting like we're being completely inconsiderate for having it here in the first place. Ugh! Makes me want to elope.
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Weddings by Shayna
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Mar 15, 2008, 4:12 PM
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It's hard to be relatively new in your town when you're planning a wedding. You may need to be creative about communicating with others about your wedding - both for your sake (to solicit some deserved feedback and good cheer) and for theirs (to understand more intimately why you've chosen to marry where you have). Have you built a wedding website? Creating one and keeping it well updated with both good information and fun thoughts, ideas, and a guest book where your friends and family can send you positive thoughts might help you feel more connected. Are you planning a welcome brunch (can be very casual) or a bridal tea or luncheon the weekend of your wedding? Distance will force you to concentrate the celebration on the weekend of the wedding, but you can have a really great time.
Also, you might seek out a wedding planner in your area - even just for hourly consultations. Sometimes we're really good at helping a bride who is relatively alone in her planning feel supported and appreciated.
It may not be ideal, but you're going to have to invest some effort in connecting with your friends and family using the means available to you. Focus on the day and the reason for it, and hopefully your spirits will start to lift. Good luck! Shayna Walker, Williamsburg Wedding Design http://www.williamsburgweddingdesign.com
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Mar 16, 2008, 1:55 PM
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I feel like saying, "She took my answer, darn!" But, that is exactly what I would have said. Great advice and very appropriate. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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