Help me! My daughter called last night and said that her fiance's parents probably could not afford much for the rehearsal dinner and probably ar having a hard time affording to come out for the wedding. (They have five sons and daughters and the wedding is across country). We, her parents, are paying for most of the wedding. I asked her if her fiance has asked his parents what they can and cannot afford. She said he hasn't but he knows their finances and knows they cannot afford much. I suggested that she ask him to talk to his parents first before we know what to do next. She said its their wedding and they only want people in the wedding and immediate family to come to the dinner. In other words, she was telling is that she doesn't want her aunts, uncles, cousins (she is an only child). So the fiance can have all his siblings but we cannot invite anyone from our side. I asked her what if we paid for our side. She thought that would be rude. Please tell me what is the proper thing to do regarding this.
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edited by Ellen Herr on Nov 20, 2006, 11:55 AM)
Parents are no longer financially responsible for their children's weddings. So, it is very nice that you are contributing so generously, but all of the planning should be done by the wedding couple. Plus, your daughter is correct on the guest list. The aunts, uncles, and other family are not typically invited unless they are part of the wedding party.
Additionally, the host sets the guest list. And, your daughter is also correct that it would be insulting to ask to invite others and to pay for them.
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