My parents are hosting the Rehearsal dinner for our wedding. They have been excited about it and looking forward to it. However, they had not planned on paying for or buying alcholic bevarages for the dinner. My dad feels very strongly against it. He doesn't drink, and I understand that. My fiance is insisting that they pay for alcoholic bevarages, despite his religious convictions about it. It's not about the money, its about the fact that he feels an honest to goodness conviction about buying alcohol for everyone at the dinner. This has really frustrated (to say the least) my fiance, and she is absolutely INSISTING that they buy drinks for those that choose to drink. Her mother even went as far as to call my mother and tell her "either you pay for alcohol, or your daughters boyfriends aren't welcome at the wedding." Now she has basically single handedly paid for this wedding, and I understand the frustration she has, but is this right? Should an issue over whether or not my parents buy alcohol for those attending the rehearsal dinner cause such tension, resentment, and problems? I love her, and I just want everyone to be happy, but this is really starting to get hard. My parents even came to a compromise, despite his feelings against it, to provide red and white wine as well as beer, simply to keep peace and try to salvage some happiness. When I explained this to my fiance, she replied with "well I'm having a margarita. I'm the bride, and I'm having a margarita. That's that." I dont know what to do. There's more to the story than this, but this is the gist of it. HELP.
I completely agree that the host decides what type of party this will be. But, one big problem would be if this is being held in a restaurant. If it is, then the host is expected to pay for the entire bill. If there is alcohol available, the guests should be allowed to order it.
One way to solve this problem and still be a good host is to do as your parents have decided and have something available. If the guests want more than that, then they would have to leave and get their own drinks.
Another much better way to deal with this problem would be to host this at their home. This way they can serve what they like.
The party doesn't have to be huge. It should only include those who have rehearsed and their immediate family or significant other.
Rehearsal Dinner
