Reserving a wedding reception venue before the engagement
My daughter and her boyfriend have expressed their intention to get married next summer after she graduates from college. Because her boyfriend lives out of state we've had to wait for certain things. For example, he wants to wait until he officially asks my daughter's father, in person, for her hand (I know, how sweet) before he officially asks our daughter and presents the ring. She's 23 and he's 28 by the way. That's great with us, but traveling time and the issue of being out of state slows this process down. What her boyfriend may not be aware of is how quickly the reception location chosen (since my daughter was a little girl) gets booked up! I figured a year for planning is about right, but I was surprised to find only two dates available for next summer. Well, I did go ahead and make a non refundable deposit that would hold one of the dates, with the option of changing the date within a one year period from the reserved date. As we are all quite sure of this fantastic young man and our daughter actually having this wedding, I didn't blink at the possibility of losing the deposit. It's a non issue. She hasn't received the ring yet though he has told her he's been saving up for it. He'd like to get married asap, so I figured it was safe to make a reservation. I feel a lot better to have a summer date on the books for them, so I'm relieved to have arranged it. My question now is: Did I do a no-no? No one knows about it except my daughter and she's OK with it, however neither of us plan to tell anyone yet as we feel the timing just isn't right. What other wedding plans or information gathering is appropriate for us at this time? I wouldn't like being accused of moving too fast, but then again, I've known so many who don't act soon enough and miss out. Yes, I do count those chickens before they're hatched, but I must say I'm darn good at it! I'm guessing they'll be "officially" engaged in a couple of months, so do I cool my jets or are there things my daughter and I could be doing? Thanks SO much from an obviously excited mom :D
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Dear Mom,
It is best to cool the jets at this point. There are two people in this couple and they should be doing the planning together. He may not have wanted the reception there, even though your daughter does. So, they need the opportunity to make these decisions together.
More than likely booking the reception site was a positive since your daughter approves.
Reserving a wedding reception venue before the engagement
