My daughter was engaged in December to a Navy Officer. He is currently waiting for navigational school to begin (wait time is 6-8 months). We are having a problem with the date. They first wanted to get married in May 2007. Our relatives live out of state and there is a family reunion (on my husband's side) planned for July 2007. This reunion has been in the planning stages for 2 years. Through many debates, they finally agreed to change the date to later in the year.
Now they have chosen December 22, 2007. We have tried to explain that this date is not acceptable, since it is 3 days before Christmas, and neither family will attend. They are standing firm on that date and expect us to comply with their wishes.
We have tried to get them to change the date to December 29th. The base will be closed 2 weeks and that would better suite all of us. But they won't budge.
HELP!
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edited by TWQadmin on Jan 5, 2007, 3:23 PM)
Since parents are no longer financially responsible for their children's wedding, they also do not plan. If this is the date that works best for the couple, then it is the date they need to choose. They must have chosen it for a reason. And, why wouldn't family attend if it were right before Christmas? Those who would have to travel may not, but close family just may.
Actually, I don't see a problem with the first date they chose as long as he is sure that he will be present for the ceremony. It isn't too close to the date of the family reunion. And, perhaps your daughter wants a smaller wedding without many family members anyway.
It is best to allow the couple to plan as they wish. If they want assistance, then it is wonderful to be there for them.
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