Wedding made me crazy and now I want to elope- Is it too late?
My fiance and I had originally planned a destination wedding in NC and have planned about half of the wedding to this point. The wedding is officially 4 months away and we are re-thinking this wedding due to the fact that it is costing way more than we expected. The planning for this wedding, thinking about expenses, planning the reception and the honeymoon and worrying about all the things that could go wrong are making me CRAZY and totally unhappy!!
Also, the grooms parents and my parents have very different ways of thinking in terms of how things should be done. Both sets of parents are making it hard on me and my fiance to plan the wedding. All of these factors combined have made the whole wedding planning process very tedious, negative, and....even unwanted. My mom, who has generously offered to pay for the wedding, has also said that if we would like to elope, that she would give us the money use as a downpayment for a house.
We are thinking that if this whole process is no longer fun, perhaps we should just elope and have a party afterwards here in our hometown. We have already sent out save-the-dates (but not invitations) for the original date. How do we go about telling all our relatives that we are no longer having this big destination wedding? Furthermore, if we have a reception here at home, do we need to send out Invitation and RSVP cards? If so, does this all get sent out with the announcement that we are no longer having the destination wedding? HELP!!
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Re: Wedding made me crazy and now I want to elope- Is it too late?
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Dear Rdhdgds,
How would you feel if you received a letter from someone you cared about saying what you suggest? What if you had already made plans and purchased tickets for the wedding? After all, we are talking about only 4 months from now. Your out of state guests could have purchased tickets.
Having said that, you could cancel the wedding without a major faux pas. You would have to send a formal note stating that your wedding plans have changed and that you two will be married in a private ceremony. Apologize sincerely. Then follow up with your invitation to the reception 8 weeks before the event.
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Wedding made me crazy and now I want to elope- Is it too late?
