My parents and I are having a bit of an argument over where to have my wedding. They want it in my hometown at the church I went to growing up where they were married and where mom's parents were married. I stopped attending this church because I felt unwelcome and no longer consider it my church home. I have only begun attending this church again in the last two months because there is a new minister and I am living with my parents. I want to have the wedding at "my church" which is two hours away from home, I attended the church for four years while in college and found it to be home. I still have many friends there. I am having the most trouble because my mom told me today that a cousin who is a close friend would not be invited because the wedding was not here. I am right in feeling that I should be able to invite anyone I feel close to and leave the decision to attend or not up the person or should I only invite those who will attend?
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Re: [stellagirl] Where to have wedding
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Dear Stellagirl,
This sounds a bit old fashioned--sorry. Today, the couple plans, invites, and pays for their wedding. After all if they (the couple) are mature enough to marry, they are mature enough to plan, invite, and pay. Even if your parents are contributing, they do not have planning rights.
Having said that, many parents and couples do not realize this. Some parents, especially the bride's parents, assume that they still pay and thus have the right to plan and invite, which appears to be the case here. So, it may be best to host the wedding you want, meaning that you two pay for your wedding.
Where to have wedding
