Should the in-laws of the sister of the bride be invited to the wedding? The in-laws in question expect to be invited to this wedding as it will occur overseas, in the same area their son married the sister. They only know the parents of the bride (and the bride herself) from the first wedding and one visit stateside. The subject arose during a holiday phone call to the parents to wish them well and the in-laws said they looked forward to coming to the event, sort of inviting themselves. Does etiquette say they should be invited (destination not withstanding) or are they being bullied into an invite? Please advise.
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Jan 24, 2005, 12:18 PM
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Re: [ryancath] Who should be invited?
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Dear Who Should Be Invited,
The sister's in-laws do not need to be invited. They are not direct family to her. But, even if they were, it is entirely her choice who is invited.
Usually for the destination wedding, the guest list is smaller anyway. So, this is a wonderful way to explain that they unfortunately are not on the guest list--if this is the bride's choice.
Re: [ryancath] Who should be invited?
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Hello Who should be invited,
I totally agree with Rebecca, you can invite whomever you want to invite. When it gets sticky is when it creates an uncomfortable situation between yourself and the sister. Do as Rebecca says and explain the need to keep the count down and see how the reaction is. In some instances, the couple gives in to keep the peace. It's your call but beware of hurt feelings. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
Who should be invited?
