Why does groom's family get left out of wedding planning?
I'm the father of the groom. I am divorced from his mother. We have three other children together. Since the planning of the wedding, my ex wife, kids and I have been left out of much of the wedding planning, despite offering to help. The wedding party will consist of the mostly of the bride's family. My son's closest friend will be the best man and the bride's brothers and cousin will be groomsmen. My other son is currently deployed in Iraq and won't be back in time to attend the wedding.
My ex and I are both upset about what has been going with the wedding planning. At first we thought maybe they weren't involving us too much because we are divorced. My ex and I get along well, so we don't think that's the reason. Most everyone I have talked to thinks the bride and her family usually have more involvement with planning/hosting and my ex wife's obligation is just to give the rehearsal dinner. I just don't feel that it's right that the groom's family gets left out. Why does the groom's family get left out and have a lesser role in a wedding?
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Tradition was that the bride's parents hosted the wedding. Things have changed a lot in the way we all live, especially for young women who typically live on their own for a while before eventually marrying. Since they are usually self-sufficient and independent when getting emgaged, and some couple even choose to live together before marriage, the tradition of the bride's parents hosting a wedding for their daughter has become antiquated.
So, the decision of who hosts, controls, plans, etc. is up to the couple. Perhaps you should let your son know that you'd like to participate, and let him know in what capacity.
It is a shame that your other son cannot be available to serve as groomsman. Please accept our gratitude for your sacrifices on our country's behalf. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I agree. Perhaps the bride's family doesn't realize that times have changed. The couple may not know this as well. It is best to talk to your son. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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