brother and fiance using same church and venue before us
I need some advice soon. My fiance and I have been engaged for 4 months. We wanted to get engaged sooner but held off so that he could finish school. We started planing the wedding about a year ago by picking a July date, church and reception venue. Now my brother and his fiance got engaged 2 months ago and started dating when we were making our first plans. Before they even got engaged they knew where we were we having our ceremony and reception. The first and original problem was that they wanted to use the same venue and church 2 weeks after our wedding. But now they want to use the same venue and church before us. Are we wrong to feel like they are taking our thunder? Thank you so much for your advice.
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Re: brother and fiance using same church and venue before us
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Dear Jjandbb,
Your church and venue just may be more convenient and/or popular. So, this may be their reasoning. But, it could also be that they think your plans are worthy of using, which is a compliment. Marrying before you isn't stealing your thunder even though it may feel so. The biggest problem would be if they scheduled theirs too close to yours. Most likely you will have similar guest lists. So, it is important for them to schedule theirs at least two months before or after yours for the comfort of your guests.
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While I agree with Rebecca, I also agree that their choice could be a bit annoying. many brides and grooms want to feel speecial on their wedding day, so having a reception at a unique place is usually the choice. If you've tried calmly discussing this with tyour brother, letting him know how important this venue is to you, and he still wants to go ahead with his plans then perhaps you can either change your plans or make arranagements to have special decorations, flowers, readings, etc. Use whatever is available to make your wedding your own.
Don't get stuck with anger during a very special time of your life. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
brother and fiance using same church and venue before us
