father of the bride wants groom to pay from honeymoon
I'm not sure how to explain this. But I am confused and overwhelmed. I'll try to keep this concise. My dad originally offered a set amount of money and said for me to use it how I could. Since I wanted a nice honeymoon over a big wedding, I allotted a little more than 1/2 to go to the honeymoon. (There was no mention of following tradition at this point) Later, because of the economic crisis, the set amount was lowered. That posed no real problem and I thought that was understandable. Then some weird stuff started to happen: My dad later said that he shouldn't be paying for the whole honeymoon, that it was the groom's responsibility, and that he would only match what the groom could contribute. The grooms family has offered to give the groom some money, but my dad does not like that idea. He wants the groom to earn the money and not accept other's help. My fiancee hasn't much money at all: he has been hit hard by a series of finantial set backs and he is also going to school full time (in order to get a better job to be able to provide for a future family). We have stopped planning for our honeymoon at this time because we have no idea how much funding we'll have. I'm a bit frustrated and would welcome any clear-headed advice.
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Re: hard economic expectations - my parents don't want anyone to help the groom
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Your dad's gift really should come with stipulations, but, we can't control how he feels. Perhaps you could get a wedding etiquette book, or point him in our direction, so he can read that it is not the responsibility of the groom to pay for the honeymoon. The days for traditional responsibillity are going by the wayside. In fact, many couples and planning and paying for their own weddings without the help of their parents. If your father insists on giving you a set amount of money to be used as he wishes then you can choose to accept his offer or decline and plan the wedding the way you like, without his help.
Good luck with all of this. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
father of the bride wants groom to pay from honeymoon
