future in-laws only pay for their friends and family
my future mother in law recently offered to pay for our wedding day catering which was wonderful. however since I talked to her, she called my fiance and said they would pay for guests/family/friends on his side only. Is it just me or is this tacky? I wouldn't be offended if she said they could only pay for half ..... any help is appreciated. do i thank them? they aren't covering anything for me. i'm almost tempted to set up two tables with signs reading matt's half and amy's half just to make a point. both of my parents passed away and I have limited funds....they know this.
we are 36 and want a really low key, inexpensive ceremony without a rehearsal dinner and only about 30 guests. she's since been calling daily with more and more people to invite. i don't know her well and really feel put on the spot with allof her suggestions. i just want to send them an invite period. they can keep their money if it comes with strings. my fiance wants to get out of town to avoid all the problems but i don't want to exclude my friends and family. he wants about 12 guests from his side, she has their total approaching 30. i want to feel comfortable on our big day not surrounded by a bunch of strangers. i feel like we're being chased out of town to avoid tension and it angers me. i want to say this is the guest list, deal with it. she's very concerned that we don't want a rehearsal dinner because we need to keep those from out of town involved. we don't even want a rehearsal dinner! by the way they'll pay for the whole rehearsal dinner as she's afraid it won't look good if we don't have one. i feel like i'm dilsliking her before i know her....resentment is building. please advise.
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future in-laws only pay for their friends and family
my future mother in law recently offered to pay for our wedding day catering which was wonderful. however since I talked to her, she called my fiance and said they would pay for guests/family/friends on his side only. Is it just me or is this tacky? I wouldn't be offended if she said they could only pay for half ..... any help is appreciated. do i thank them? they aren't covering anything for me. i'm almost tempted to set up two tables with signs reading matt's half and amy's half just to make a point. both of my parents passed away and I have limited funds....they know this. 
