Hello there, I am the mother of the bride. The wedding is planned for June 2006 in Vermont where the couple lives. I live in Virginia and father of the bride lives in Michigan. How difficult will it be to coordinate this upcoming event with all parties involved? I do realize there will be long distance calls and shipping items back and forth but short of traveling there every month what are my alternatives?? My daughter and I are already in constant communication over this..should I consult a wedding coordinator in Vermont? and if I don't should the bride to be consult one? The cost of the event is planned to be shared by all of us. My concern is that I will be left out of the planning of the event if I am not there or is that silly paranoia? The groom's family all live in Vermont and she has gotten a good relationship with her future mother-in-law. Also the Father of the bride isn't interested in the details, he's more the "who do I make the check out to.." kind of person. Any ideas or suggestions?
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Hmmm, sounds as if you want to be there helping your daughter plan her wedding and maybe have a small case of the "green eye'd monster" perhaps? I'd probably feel the same way. Try not to allow jealosy of the relationship your daughter may be forming with her new mother in law. Go on as you are now, helping as much as you can from a distance and, if your budget and time allows, take a trip or two up to visit your daughter in order to be with her during the times you want to share (shopping for the wedding dress is a nice mother/daughter event). Talk to your daughter and get her ideas for when would be best for you to visit and during those conversations, let her know how excited you are to help her plan her wedding. Ask her to let you know where she feels she needs your help most. Ask her if she wants a wedding planner; she may not.
Most fathers, well, most men, don't give a hoot about the planning so don't worry about her father, he's acting like a typical man! Hopefully he'll be in contact with your daughter too.
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Also the Father of the bride isn't interested in the details, he's more the "who do I make the check out to.." kind of person. Any ideas or suggestions? 
Try not to allow jealosy of the relationship your daughter may be forming with her new mother in law. Go on as you are now, helping as much as you can from a distance and, if your budget and time allows, take a trip or two up to visit your daughter in order to be with her during the times you want to share (shopping for the wedding dress is a nice mother/daughter event). Talk to your daughter and get her ideas for when would be best for you to visit and during those conversations, let her know how excited you are to help her plan her wedding. Ask her to let you know where she feels she needs your help most. Ask her if she wants a wedding planner; she may not. 
Hopefully he'll be in contact with your daughter too. 