I have read the posts on etiquette on one marriage, two ceremonies but I still have questions. My fiance and I live in Montana with our son. We would like to have a small civil ceremony in MT and then have a small dinner to celebrate. Then we would like to have another ceremony in Wisconsin so that our family can see us get married (they've waited a long time for this) - how should we handle this? I don't want to offend people by not inviting them to the ceremony in MT but I don't want them to miss out and know that a lot of our family and friends are wanting to be there when we say "I do". We want to add to our family and have another baby and my fiance wants us to be married before this one comes along. Hence the reason for the civil ceremony now... Would people be okay with just a renewal of vows and a party to celebrate a wedding to which they weren't invited? Please help me figure this out. Thanks
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Re: [MTbrideWIfamily] we're in one place - whole family in another
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Once you have the wedding ceremony, you're married and, there cannot be another wedding. So, it's best to wait and plan the wedding at a time and location when your parents can attend. Plan to have the baby after the wedding.
A vow renewal so soon after the wedding wouldn't be right but you could host a small reception to celebrate the wedding and perhaps have a video of the wedding ceremony played during the reception so your parents can see it. But, I do think your best option would be to put off having another baby until you can have the wedding you want. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Re: [MTbrideWIfamily] planning two wedding ceremonies?
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I couldn't agree more. Plus, the most well received and proper, is to have the one ceremony and two receptions. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
planning two wedding ceremonies?
