The bride I am standing in for is planning a wedding catastrophe I think. Is there anything I can tell her to convince her of this bad idea?
She is planning a formal wedding. Ceremony will be at noon, should last about 30 minutes, reception is only about 10 min away but doesnt start until 6pm, with dinner at 7 and goes until 1am. I can't help but think this is going to be a nightmare but she really has this as her vision of how it will be. Nothing is planned for the guests for the downtime, she thought they could 'go relax for a while' and the wedding party will be doing pictures then lunch after the ceremony, then waiting to go to the reception basically.
Reception begins at 6 and doeesn't end until 1 PM? Gee...this will be a very long day, especially if there are any older folks like grandparents. sigh
I agree that this is a bad idea but it sounds like the two of you have already discussed this and she has her mind set. Are there any family members who agree and can talk to her? Perhaps if enough people let her know that she is being selfish (you wouldn't want to tell this to the bride unless you want to possibly end your friendship) and not considering her guests comfort (as all good hostesses do) she might move the reception up a bit.
If you cannot change her mind all you can do is to suggest to her how inconvenient this will be for her guests and maybe offer suggestions of ways to entertain her guests while they wait. Maybe she just hasn't thought the whole thing through. Giver her a chance to talk abouit it and maybe she'll come around. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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