First, the background: I'm planning to get married during the summer of 2006...it must be in either July or August, because I'm a school psychologist, and there is no way I'd ever get time off for a honeymoon during the school year, which runs until June 25th. A good friend from college, Kay, is getting married (tentatively) in June 2006.
Now for my two questions:
1) How far from Kay's date should I plan my own? She was engaged first, but has set no firm date. Among other issues, we have several close mutual friends who might be monetarily inconvenienced if the dates were set too closely.
2) How do I factor in another mutual friend, Susan, whom I've always wanted to be part of my day, being that Susan will probably be asked to be a part of Kay's wedding as well? Do I have to ask Susan first, or does Kay get first dibs because she was engaged before me?
Any and all help is greatly appreciated.
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Jan 3, 2005, 7:16 PM
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Re: [firedancer22] scheduling a wedding...and bridesmaids
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Dear Scheduling,
There really is no magic date. You would have to judge for yourself how much time in between is best. Usually for friends two month is a good amount of time. This is especially true for summer months. People just plan to attend more weddings when the weather is good.
As for asking Susan? Talk to your friend about this first. You can ask Susan to be in your wedding if you want without asking your friend, but you seem to want to be very careful. So, there is nothing wrong with talking to your friend who is getting married about these things.
scheduling a wedding...and bridesmaids
