My parents were divorced when I was young. My parents had joint custody until 8th grade. He remarried but I have never lived with his new wife or her children. My father and I have recently reconciled. I am getting married in October and my "stepmother" wants the role of mother of the groom. She wants to match the bridal party and go to get her hair done with them. She keeps saying "her only son" is getting married. I don't mind including her but she is stepping on my mom's toes. My mom is not remarried. What is the proper role of a stepmother and is it written somewhere so I can show her without offending her?
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You'll have to explain to your father that his wife is not the mother of the groom, that is your mother's role. Step parents are typically treated as honored guests unless they raised the child. And, the mother of the groom doesn't typically go out dress shopping or match the bridal bridal party. Your stepmother didn't raise you so she doesn't have a role unless you want her to have one. I'm sure you can find a kind way of letting her know. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I agree. And, you could find this information in etiquette books. The stepmother typically dresses as one of the guests and sits in the third row with your father. If she had raised you or you wanted her to play a roll, she could be treated as one of the mothers, but this doesn't apply to her. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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