My fiance and I have been having trouble with the MOG and the rehersal dinner. We have been asking her for the past year to please make plans for the dinner (the wedding is in less than 6 months) and we still do not have any plans. There have been a lot of issues that have come up and I have compromised on many things that were important to me for my rehearsal dinner. I have also given up on a lot of things.
Now, she does not want to invite the people on the guest list (52 people), even though we have offered to pay for anything over there budget. I just find it rude not to invite the people included in our wedding ceremony, including the parents of children in the wedding. At this point, the rehearsal dinner is the only wedding issue that the groom and I have. I don't even want one anymore.
Is it okay to decline her offer and do the rehearsal dinner ourselves? I am at the end of my rope and can't deal anymore. She is being so difficult and I don't want to deal with that the night before my wedding. Please help!
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edited by TWQadmin on Apr 19, 2007, 1:43 PM)
Parents are no longer responsible for any of the wedding planning or costs. So, you may plan and pay for this, but you should be very polite when you suggest that you will. She was not obligated to invite that many or any for that matter.
52 is a lot of guests for a rehearsal dinner. It really should only include those who are participating, children's parents, your immediate family, such as parents, the officiate and spouse.
The 52 was the wedding party. It included everyone at the rehersal (readers, etc), aunts and uncles (2 on each side) and the clergy. The children are not invited (at her request and I'm paying a babysitter) but the number does include the parents. I know its a lot of people involved, but I cannot exclude someone who is part of the ceremony! We are not inviting dates unless very serious. I've done all I can to get list down. Am I unreasonable to want to include those in the ceremony?
Rehearsal Dinner Etiquette
