Grooms parents contributed a flat sum to the wedding fund and it was understood that the rehearsal dinner was to be taken care of from those funds. The bride and groom decided to stretch the budget by having a simple homemade dinner at the church following rehearsal and asked Bride's parents to assist with the preparation (grooms parents expressed no interest) It is now less than 2 weeks till the big day and the MOG is not happy that this is how the rehearsal dinner is being handled and does not want the grandparents and an aunt/uncle of the bride (they are coming early to help) included in the dinner. I don't want this marriage to start out with "in law issues" but this seems very rude to me. Any expert suggestions?
This is tricky because we have the new and old mixing in here. Today it is not necessary for parents to host the wedding. Anything they give is a gift. However, traditionally the groom's parents would host the rehearsal dinner. Plus, typically only the bridal party and close immediate family would be invited. So, as you see this is different.
It would appear as if the MOG is thinking about this reflecting on her as well as those family member who should not be part of the guest list attending. However, plenty of people include their grandparents if they are very close.
Since this is not traditional, in fact it is smart to keep expenses low, the couple's plans are fine. The MOG just doesn't realize this.
Yes, I think there is a problem here. You are correct. But, this is not a major issue. Perhaps the groom can speak to his mother. Only he can.
Just follow the plans calmly and quietly. She will either join in or not. As long as all of you are on the same page and stay calm and smile, at least you will not be contributing to the problem.
Rehearsal Dinner dilemma
