I am the MOB and my daughter's wedding is a destination wedding. Some of the guests will be traveling upawards of 8 to 10 hours to arrive at the destination.
The parents of the groom initially said that they would invite the members of the bridal party, as well as any out of town relatives, to the rehearsal dinner. Now they have changed their minds on the out of town relatives (6 of my family, my mother, my brother, my sister, their significant others and a child). My mother will be traveling here with one of the families and she is invited but no one else is. My mother feels it would be wrong to leave everyone to go to the dinner after they have brought her such a long distance, so she says if they aren't invited she won't come either. This would not be so bad but the groom's parents are inviting a sister and a few close friends. But choose to leave my family out. I offered to pay for the extra dinners but they did not accept. Am I incorrect to feel upset about this. I would really want my mother to attend, she is 83 years old and I want everyone to feel happy and comfortable. This time is stressful enough.
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The party is hosted by them, so they can invite anyone they wish. It is not obligatory to invite out of town guests. In fact, many times it complicates everything. But, they shouldn't invite friends to this either because this party is for the couple and those involved in the ceremony. It sounds as if a few people are forgetting what this is all about--the couple marrying.
You can host something for your out of town guests or ask a family member to do it. This is the most common method.
I don't want to belabor this issue but I too will be traveling and I'm trying to do this wedding from long distance, no one lives in the area of the wedding. Therefore my sources are limited. But the real point was if the grooms parents are inviting memembers of their family (not in the wedding party) should they invite members of the brides family (not in the wedding party). Again it is just a handful. I know this is about the bride and groom, but they are upset too.
They probably should but we can't force them to invite additional guests if they're hosting. Perhaps the groom can speak to his parents if he is concerned.
Otherwise, all you can do is to provide your family with area maps and suggested places to find dining and entertainment and show up as a guest fr the rehearsal dinner. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Rehersal Dinner Guests
