I have come into an inheritance and am paying for almost the entire wedding with it. My parents have paid for my dress and my fiance's daughters' and my daughter's dresses and are helping out with other things because they want to. His parents haven't offered to help out or pay for anything. I am wondering if it is ok to state when inviting everyone (except the pastor and wife) to the rehearsal dinner that it is "dutch". My parents are fine with this but I'm not sure if that's ok??!!. HELP!
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Mar 18, 2008, 10:06 AM
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Re: [lashli1995] paying for the rehearsal dinner
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No, it is never polite to host a party and ask guests to pay. (The only time this is seen as acceptable is the bachelor/bachelorette party where all guests are expected to cover their own cost as well as the bride's). If you want to host a rehearsal dinner then you'll need to pay for your guests. There are many ways to do this on a budget, such as hosting a very casual dinner at your home. Invite only those who have to be at the rehearsal.
It is not the groom's parents obligation to pay for the rehearsal dinner, nor is it any parent's responsibility to contribute these days. many couples pay for their own weddings since most are on their own. This is especially true in your case since you mention you both have children. This would indicate that the two of you have been out on your own, possibly married before and should be responsible for whatever events you choose to plan.
Any contribution from parents should be considered a generous gift.
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Mar 18, 2008, 2:17 PM
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I completely agree. Plus, the rehearsal dinner is optional. You could simply forego it. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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