Our son is getting married in July. My husband and I "assumed" we would be paying for / hosting the rehearsal dinner, which we thought was traditional. We have just found out that the brides parents are hosting a rehearsal /family party at their home, on the eve of the wedding. Now we are wondering if we should contact the brides parents to offer financial, or some other support for this. Is this assuming too much? Would this be overstepping the boundries of etiquette?
Since parents are no longer financially responsible for their children's weddings, the traditional roles have changed. Any one can host a rehearsal dinner if one is to be hosted--it is optional. If hosted, it should be for those who actually rehearsed and immediate family. It really shouldn't be a large party, like a mini-reception. But, you definitely could offer to help in any way you could. This is gracious.
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