I'm the mother of the bride. My husband and I are paying for a destination wedding (including a beach house for bride, groom & attendants) and a hometown reception. (even groomsmen attire) The groom's parents do not want alcohol served. Period. We drink socially only and the bride and groom do also. After the wedding ceremony, at the small reception we will bring out the champagne to toast the bride and groom after his family has left. (that reception is at our condo) The reception back home will be at our country club. We are serving hors dourves and a candy buffet. We would like to have this from 7-9 then at 9 have an after party at the club, with champagne, wine, beer. How do we do this tactfully? We don't want to offend anyone, yet they are paying for nothing, not even a rehearsal dinner, so we feel like we, as hosts, should have some say so. Do we do this by word of mouth, include this in the reception invitation? I don't want his family to feel like it's time to go at 9:00 yet I know they won't stay. Not sure if they will even come if they know there will be alcohol later. Do we do away with this all together? My mother is not a drinker but she is not offended if anyone else drinks. The rest of our family want alcoholoic beverages too.
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It is not unusual for a guest to make such a demand but when it is the Mother of the groom, it gets touchy. I would try to speak with her personally and let her know that you are providing what the majority of your guests would enjoy. Therefore, you will be serving alcohol. If she is still unreasonable on this issue, you can speak with the bride and groom to seek their view on how you should proceed. When you are hosting at a venue that serves alcohol, your guests will most likely find a way to get it in to the reception. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
I agree. You are the host and the couple, who should have the last say, don't have a problem with alcohol. So, you should be able to serve it whenever you wish. But, I do agree that it may be best for you or her son to speak to her about it.
If you choose to have an after-party, all guests should be invited.
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