All the traditional methods of cutting the list aren't working for me. Both of my parents have 12 siblings a piece. Each of those uncles and aunts have 6 kids a piece. and many of my first cousins have their own brood of 4 a piece. My future hubby's people are the same way.
Family alone is 200, but I really want my friends there and my sorority sisters there as well.
What do you do when you have a million dollar family but a poor man's budget of about $10,000? I've investigated the cheapest places in town, but for my size, they're all saying that the cheapest they can do is about $18,000.
Got any new ideas on cutting guest list? Can i do a reception for my family and a party a few weeks later for our friends?
Nancy Tucker
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Dec 23, 2007, 3:34 AM
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Dear Southsidebride,
When you are unable to pare down the guest list, it sometimes becomes necessary to rethink your vision of your actual wedding. There are a number of ways to cut costs for a wedding and the reception site being the biggest percentage of the budget is the best place to start. You may have to consider a park or a service club, i.e. Elks Lodge rather than a hotel or wedding venue. You should also consider keeping the costs down by streamlining your floral needs, by limiting the number of attendants and by holding the wedding on a Friday or a Sunday. When you consider which is more important to you, you'll be able to decide if you want a big hotel reception or do you want to be able to include all of your family and friends. Make the decision that works best for you. Best wishes. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
southsidebride
Dec 23, 2007, 4:13 AM
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Good idea. We're now moving on to family style dinner, which I hope no one finds is tacky. plated service just won't work with that many people. and we're taking it out of a hotel. i read somewhere else that perhaps at the five year anniversary, do a big thing at a hotel when we're better able to afford it and when our guest list will definitely be smaller.
it still stings that all the stuff you see in the magazines isn't really possible unless you're a rockefeller, but you're right... what's most important to me is really having my family there.
thanks much
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Dec 23, 2007, 9:38 AM
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Dec 23, 2007, 4:01 PM
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One more thing, please. It isn't polite or proper to host a reception for only family and a party for friends later. All wedding guests are also invited to the reception. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Big family. How do cut the guest list?
