We sent out invitations for our 9/25/05 wedding and reception and the majority are coming back as sorry, we cannot attend. Initially I let my fiance know my family is small and most of the relatives are not close due to past family problems. He didn't listen and expected me to have at least 75 people attending. We booked a reception hall that requires us to pay for at least 75 people and now on both sides we will be falling short. My fiance didn't plan on his side sending back "no" replies either. I don't know whether to cancel the original site and try to book at a small restaurant or go through with a large room and few tables. I also have a DJ hired and if we move the reception to a restaurant we might not be able to have a DJ. We are about 1 month away and if we do change I need to contact people to let them no we had a change of plans.
I am both hurt and stressed awaiting what should be a very happy time. Any suggestions would be appreciated.
Probably the best solution, both from a logistical and cost stand point, is for you to simply pay for the 75 head count and stay put. Even though you aren't going to have that many, cancelling means you'll lose the deposit, and it will also add an unbeliebable amount of stress and worry.
Being this close to your wedding day, just chuck up this unforeseen circumstance to being part of the wonderful world of wedding planning and keep looking toward that moment when you will say "I DO". Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
We hosted a wedding reception that was supposed to have 250 people, and only about 75 showed up. The groom was furious as they had rented a large venue and paid for a wonderful buffet. We still made sure that all the traditional dances were done. Late in the evening, before the bride and groom left the building, the bride shared with us that she was glad she'd hired us. She said that her hubby was very upset at first when he saw all the tables empty, but had admitted to her that he thoroughly enjoyed the evening with the few guests who did show.
So, remember.... it's not the quantity that counts but the quality. It's not too late to possibly invite some people you had not originally planned on having at your reception. Perhaps some widowed church members who would enjoy a night out? Or some acquaintances who might make good friends down the road?
Keep the venue, keep the DJ, and since you're extended anyway..... extend a little more by opening your circle to include some people you had not originally considered. But most of all, enjoy your special day! Copen Cabana DJ Audio Visual Production providing Custom Wedding Coffee Table Photo Book with DVD Services http://www.knowareland.com
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