Bride inviting all to ceremony & reception but only some to dinner
Please help! I'm the MOH in my brother's wedding next year. The bride has decided to invite 210 or so to the ceremony and the reception and only 110 or so to the dinner. She explained this to my step-mom (also groom's step-mom) and I received a call shortly after from my step-mom asking why she was doing this and how rude it was. I know I'm going to get a lot of questions on this because I am the MOH and I need to know how to properly answer, while not offending anyone, even though there is no nice way of doing it. I personally believe if you can't afford to feed everyone, then you need to reconsider your guest list. She wants to have the church ceremony around 2, dinner at 5 and reception at 8 or 9. I'm just worried that's way to much time in between dinner and the reception and if she does move it closer together, what are the guests going to feel like when they show up early and we're still eating!? Or they miss the cake cutting and grand march!? Please please please help!
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You really shouldn't have to field these questions. Just refer them to the bride and groom. But, you may want to speak to your brother and explain why her idea will hurt an entire group of friends and family members. These "guests" will know that there has been an event they were not invited to. Ask him how he would feel if he were in that position. Let him bring the message to his bride. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Jul 24, 2008, 1:20 PM
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Exactly! All wedding guests are invited to the entire reception. Not to do so is very impolite. And, we don't schedule that much time in between events unless we are also providing another activity for our guests. They are, in fact, our guests.
Nudge your brother. This is his event too. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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Jul 24, 2008, 1:37 PM
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Thank you so much for both of your responses! I am completely honored to be the maid of honor in my brother's wedding and I do realize it is THEIR wedding (which I keep telling the bride to remember, her mother seems to think differently). It is just very hard to bite my tongue when things like this come up. I've tried to ask the bride questions like what if the guests show up early and we're still eating and she is planning on having enough time for clean up and all that, so hopefully it won't happen. We'll see!
Bride inviting all to ceremony & reception but only some to dinner
