Brides' Father & Fiance are paying $20k for reception
The brides' father and I live together & plan on getting married. We live in a different state than the bride & groom. Her Father told her we would pay up to $20K for the reception. We also took out insurance so, if something happens to either of us his daughter can still have the wedding of her dreams. The Brides' parents have been divorced for many years. They do not get along. Everytime I ask something about the wedding I'm told its only one day what do you want me to do. We are paying alot of money for this reception & its like we are outsiders. Can I say or do anything?
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As future stepmother, I would stay out of it completely and allow your fiance to deal with his daughter and ex-wife. There could be animosity there.
Your fiance is giving his daughter a gift, a very generous gift, but a gift no less. And, as such, he really cannot expect to tell his daughter how to use the money or to have input in the planning. But, it would be nice if the bride would include her dad. Perhaps he could speak with her and let her know how important it is to him to be involved. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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I completely agree. Very often, stepmothers are not treated well. So, it is probably best to stay as neutral as possible and allow your fiance to do the talking. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Brides' Father & Fiance are paying $20k for reception
