My husband and I got married Oct. 28th in the USVI. We are having a reception at home with family/friends this coming Saturday. We did not want children present and only addressed the invites with adults names. We had one person request to bring their son and I made arrangments for a child's room, which I later cancelled since they decided not to bring their son. My sister-in-law and brother have a 21 month old son (my nephew). I have made it clear to her that he could not come. She has even made snide comments about it to my face. With only 6 days to go she has finally started looking for a sitter and has said she can't find one. I know she is doing this on purpose. I am at odds with my parents on this too as they think he should be there. My question is am I wrong to insist that he not come? We do not want children there and I personally think he is way too young to come. Our reception is from 5:30-10:30 with a 5 hr open bar (and they both drink). Just when we will be sitting down to eat he will probably be starting his evening tirde and be tired about the time dinner is done with. Also, isn't it rude since we told several other people no children unless they are in the kids room and then we have one there (family or not). By the way, it is way too late to try to find a sitter for the child's room and my sister-in-law said she wouldn't put him there anyway. Thank you for your advice.
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Nov 6, 2007, 2:28 PM
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Re: [StJohn] Child at Formal Wedding Reception
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Dear StJohn,
This is an occasion where family comes together. However, you have every right to want a child free event. And, it is logical, especially considering the time and alcohol.
I agree that it is impolite to insist about bringing a guest even if it is his/her child. I don't know where this takes you though. Family can be a bit difficult sometimes. But, you could make a strong case with your reference to others who wanted to bring their children but didn't and how they may feel.
Re: [StJohn] Child at Formal Wedding Reception
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Your groom should probably get on the phone with his family members and explain. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Child at Formal Wedding Reception
