We are having a small wedding followed by dinner at a restaurant (about 25 guests.) I would rather not have the full bar selection of drinks open to our guests(for financial and consumption reasons). We are planning to offer coffee, tea, soft drinks, one red wine, one white wine and a couple kinds of beer. Is there any reason it would be considered tacky to have a drink menu on each table listing these options? We don't really need a full menu since everyone already knows what they're going to be eating.
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The only real purpose the drink menu would serve would be to point out to guests that you are not offering a full bar. Let the servers and bartenders address guest questions, and leave the menu out altogether. Shayna Walker, Williamsburg Wedding Design http://www.williamsburgweddingdesign.com
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The only real purpose the drink menu would serve would be to point out to guests that you are not offering a full bar. Let the servers and bartenders address guest questions, and leave the menu out altogether.
I'm not trying to second-guess anyone's judgement, but I'm having trouble seeing where this is a problem. Isn't it better for us to inform guests of the options available rather than have them told in front of everyone that "I'm sorry, but the bride and groom aren't providing mixed drinks?"
I just don't see providing a drink selection as any different than having the guests select from a few entrees for dinner before they get there. Of course the restaurant offers a whole selection of entrees, but we are only allowing our guests to choose from a few of them. The drink thing seems the same as that: we aren't going to allow guests to ask for fish only to be told "the bride and groom are only offering chicken and beef. Sorry."
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Anytime you go to a bar at a party or event, you will naturally have to ask what the bar includes. It's never the same thing twice, and that's what bartenders expect.
No one is saying you can't do the menu. You asked our opinion, and in my opinion, from experience, it will serve to point out what is missing, rather than inform. If you don't agree, then print the menu.
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I'm not clear on how the guests are selecting their meal. If you are allowing the server to inform the guests about meal choices then it would make sense to also allow them to inform the guest of drink choices. If there is going to be a limited printed menu then the drink choices could be listed there as well, especially if the guests are seated and not visiting the bar on their own. It just seems to make sense to keep continuity. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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