Ever since I can remember I have thought that the groom going up the bride's dress to retrive her garter was absolutely tasteless. I refuse to do this at my reception. I know that it is tradition, and as so, I have a feeling many of my guests will be expecting it (as well as the garter and bouquet toss) to be part of the evening's events. I have decided to keep my garter on until the honeymoon and to give my bouquet to my mother as a symbol of her relationship with my step-father. My question is, what can I do in place of the traditional garter/bouquet events?
These are very old customs that have nothing to do with our lives today. Many are opting not to include them, so don't worry about it. And, you don't have to replace it with anything else. The reality is that you can create your own element that means something to you or to your guests.
Announcing that you are giving your bouquet to your mother and why and walking over to give it to her would be something that you could do. Honor everyone who has been married over 10 years with a special song. You are only limited by your imagination. Just keep in mind that some people are a bit more private and may not want to participate or to be put on display.
Garter/boquet toss
