If guests don't rsvp - do I have to order food for them
Of the 110 invitations (250) guests invited to my daughter's wedding I have only received confirmation of 105 attending. The cost of the wedding has doubled what we originally had planned for. I do not want to pay an additional $35 + per guest for people who did not rsvp. How do I handle this correctly?
Kim
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Sep 12, 2007, 12:38 PM
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Re: [kimkj1121] If guests don't rsvp - do I have to order food for them
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This is unfortunate, but it happens a lot. This is one of the many reasons etiquette is so important. So, for the few people we have had come to this site to post that they don't care about etiquette, this one's for you!
Once you are past your RSVP date you can call everyone who has not responded. Unfortunately, we have had many posts in the past where brides have called and still cannot get a definitive answer. Hopefully this will not be the case for you.
But, your banquet manager or wedding planner should be advised if there were some guests who have not replied. Although it is impolite of your guests not to let you know if they are coming, it is also impolite not to have a meal for them if they do show up. Typically they will have an extra table and a few meals to offer to unexpected guests.
We try never to greet rudeness with rudeness. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Sep 12, 2007, 12:57 PM
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I agree - if they have forgotten to reply, or have just forgotten their manners, you have a right (and a financial responsibility to yourself) to call them and ask what their intentions are. You can enlist your bridal party to help, and even the groom's family and friends if any of the responses are on his side.
It isn't going to guarantee you 100% accuracy, but you should certainly be able to get closer than 50%, and that translates into dollars saved for you, as well as peace of mind for everyone involved. Shayna Walker, Williamsburg Wedding Design http://www.williamsburgweddingdesign.com
If guests don't rsvp - do I have to order food for them
