We have invited 230 people to our wedding. When the invitations were ordered I did not think it was necessary to indicate that children are not invited since I would be writing the names of those invited on the envelope (not realizing how many people are etiquette challenged). Our RSVP's are coming in with an alarming number of people bringing their children or bringing more than the number of people invited. Since we have so many of these responses is it okay to send out an addendum stating due to limited seating we are asking that only those invited to the wedding be attendance which means no children? Our budget is every limited, as well as space and we really don't want children at our wedding. Our wedding is November 5th...please help!!
This is a nightmare, but one that is being replayed again and again. You did everything correct, except that we are now anticipating the 'etiquette' challenged. I am now advising others to add tables for those univited guests.
It is unfortunate, but so many couples are finding that guests just feel as if it is their 'right' to bring their children and out of town guests.
It wouldn't be 'etiquette (ly)' correct to send addendums, although... geez! It upsets me too. Sorry.
At this late date, it would probably be best to get the old phone chain going and have close family and friends call all of the guests they know telling them of the tight accommodations. You don't have to mention money, just that there will be no room for the extra people.
RSVP nightmare
