I just found out that at my son's wedding, there will not be reserved seating for our 10 family members (Aunt, uncles, cousins). My son's family and friends total 30, and the brides family and friends total 150+. These 10 family members will be traveling 3 hours and staying in a motel. I have requested 2 reserved tables for these 10 family members and have been told "no" by the bride. To reserve these ten seats would mean reserving approximately 30 seats to accommodate her aunts, uncles and first cousins. Even though I knew there was open seating, I assumed that closer family members would have a reserved table. Two the ten family members (Groom's cousins) held a couples' shower and will be in charge of the guest book. Do you think it is unreasonable to ask for 10 reserved seats? By the way, the groom's parents have contributed approximately 1/2-13 of the cost of the wedding. The wedding is 10 days away and I need help fast!!
Because you are contributing a large amount to the wedding, it would seem as if you would have some say it this. However, this is an issue that the couple usually decides.
Often there is no assigned seating, especially when it concerns extended family. Plus, if there is no reserved seating, it would be unfair to the rest of the guests to reserve a few.
It would probably be best to talk to your son about this. If the answer is no, then it may be best to have a few family members save tables as soon as you enter the venue.
I do not think it is unreasonable for you to want family members to have reserved seating at the reception. Personally, I encourage reserved tables whenever I can.
That being said, I believe you have two options. First, you can re-state your request to the bride-to-be citing the same reasons you have mentioned here. Also, you may want to mention that you don't think this is unreasonable given the small number of guests you would like to accommodate. Your other option is to not say anything and you, along with these family members, put together a game plan for everyone to arrive at the site at the same time so all can sit together. Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
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