Hello, my question is how to handle the fact that my fiance's family live in Los Angeles and mine lives in Chicago. We are getting married in Los Angeles but I want to do something for my family. What is the best way to handle this. I was thinking of seding an invitation asking them to confirm which ceremony they would be able to attend. This way I will know how many people show up at each event. However, we don't have the money for two full-blown receptions so what can I do in Chicago that is nice but won't break me? How soon after the wedding should I have the second reception? There could be as many as 200 friends and family members that show up to the second reception - I'm really stuck here. HELP!!!
Nancy Tucker
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Apr 6, 2005, 7:40 PM
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Dear Reception in different cities,
Why is it necessary to have a second reception in Chicago? The ideal wedding joins not only the bride and groom but also the couples families. Is it impossible for your family to travel to LA? Most of the weddings I've had with cross country families, one family or the other travels to be a part of your special day.
If it is absolutely necessary to have the second reception in Chicago, you can do that anytime after the wedding but try for within 6 months. You can certainly do a champagne and cake reception in Chicago.
Again, I'd try to join the families in LA so that they can enjoy all of the traditional wedding events such as the first dance, etc. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
flowersue
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Apr 7, 2005, 6:57 AM
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Invite who you would like to come to the wedding and let them decide if they can make it or not. Alternately, keep the guest list intimate and scale it all back. You really have only one weddding and reception. As far as celebration with your Chicago family and friends I think it would be best to stay informal. Perhaps an picnic or barbecue type party or something like that. You can have the photos and video there but keep to the formality down. Putting on 2 formal receptions seems over the top. This is about sharing with friends and family. Take the time to fill them in on your wedding....but do not try to make another for them. This is about you and your future husband...not just the party....Once you are married you are husband and wife. That is what matters most....love each other and do what you can to share your happiness with your friends...you don't have to break the bank to do that! Be happy and relax...wishing you a happily ever after!!!! Sue of Hobart's Fine Florals http://www.hobartsfineflorals.com
jimmyshoe
Apr 7, 2005, 7:45 AM
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Thanks. I guess I wanted something for family members that couldn't attend. I have a very close family and I wanted to share that moment with them. Maybe something more informal would be good. I'm not trying to pay for two large receptions.
Khrys
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Apr 7, 2005, 11:07 PM
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Jimmyshoe - I agree with both Nancy & Sue. The most important thing is that the two of you are husband and wife. However, if you really must host two celebrations, then perhaps you can rearrange your honeymoon plans to include a weekend trip to your family's hometown for a low-key celebration before heading off to the honeymoon. Perhaps a unique family barbeque, picnic, or other lightly catered event albeit, less formal, event to welcome the new couple. Good luck!
Receptions in different cities
Invite who you would like to come to the wedding and let them decide if they can make it or not. Alternately, keep the guest list intimate and scale it all back. You really have only one weddding and reception. As far as celebration with your Chicago family and friends I think it would be best to stay informal. Perhaps an picnic or barbecue type party or something like that. You can have the photos and video there but keep to the formality down. Putting on 2 formal receptions seems over the top. This is about sharing with friends and family. Take the time to fill them in on your wedding....but do not try to make another for them. This is about you and your future husband...not just the party....Once you are married you are husband and wife. That is what matters most....love each other and do what you can to share your happiness with your friends...you don't have to break the bank to do that! Be happy and relax...wishing you a happily ever after!!!! 