My fiance and I have decided we want to have a small wedding, just our immediate families. Unfortunately, we both really want to invite the remainder of his family but if you invite one then you invite all 90. We are invisioning a wedding of 25 total. We want to get married in the church and have a backyard bbq reception but we were wondering if it was possible or acceptable to invite his entire family to the ceremony and not to the reception. Again, it's not that we do not want them there but we do not want this huge event, and we do not have the money for it. So could we invite the extra 90 people to the church and then have a reception for only the 25 closets to us? Should we hold a mini reception with appetizers after the ceremony? But, at the rate shouldn't we just have a big wedding? Please please help we don't know what to do, or how to handle the possible wrath of unhappy family members. Thank you, Colleen
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Nov 18, 2007, 6:01 PM
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Re: [Cgirl686] Small wedding not inviting entire family
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Dear Cgirl,
We have many posts concerning this. So, it may be best to please read them.
It is not polite to invite guests to a wedding and not the party that follows--the reception. It is like saying that they are good enough to give you a gift, but not good enough to entertain and thank for sharing your ceremony with them.
When you invite, you are a host. So, please consider this fact when inviting. Always treat your guests as special.
Small wedding not inviting entire family
