I am getting married in October and my fiance and I have chosen the reception site we want. My parents are furious because they think the reception is too far away from my hometown. They are offended that I did not consider any sites nearer to them that they suggested. However, we did go look at some nearby but we did not like them. My fiance and I both live near the reception hall as do many of our friends. The reception site we have chosen is perfect for us in all aspects and is what we envisioned for our wedding. It is beautiful, affordable and is attached to a hotel for guests to stay overnight.
The cost was not an issue as it is well within the original budget. My parents are upset about the fact that it is 35 minutes from their house. I live in a large metropolitan area and it is just a few suburbs away. The site is easily accessible from all major highways.
My parents insist that it is wedding etiquette that they choose the reception site (or have a strong say in it). Even if we pay for the reception, they are mad and have stated that they will be upset at the wedding if we don't change the location.
Can you PLEASE tell me what is proper etiquette in a situation like this?
Sincerely,
Ready to throw in the towel!
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Re: [myrt17] Who chooses the reception site?
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Dear Myrt,
Traditionally, the bride's parents paid for everything and the bride's mother would do most of the planning. Because they were the bankers, the wedding and reception was held in the their hometown. Today, the couple is responsible for all costs. Many families still contribute, but this doesn't give them planning or inviting rights. Anything they offer is a gift. So, we are in a new century with modern and realistic 'rules'.
Who chooses the reception site?
