Hello, I have 9 nieces and nephews that range in age from 8-18, of which only 2 are in high school. My fiance believes (very strongly), that kids should not be invited at all. She says she was never allowed to go to the receptions when she was little. We are planning on having all of the kids in the ceremony (ushers, flower girl, ringbearer, gift givers, etc.). She is afraid that a few of the younger boys, who are a little rambunctious, will misbehave and mess up the reception. So, my question is is it wrong to have the nieces and nephews participate in the wedding ceremony but not invite them to the reception? We kind of thought that if you are in high school, you'd be ok. As for the kids that would be left out, we were planning on having them all at my sister's house with a sitter and take care of their needs (dinner, movies, games, etc.). Any advice would be appreciated! Thanks, Kenny.
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Oct 10, 2007, 7:43 PM
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If these children are being asked to be a part of the ceremony then it would be impolite to exclude them from the reception. If you do not want any children at the reception then please do not have them in the bridal party or at the ceremony. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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Oct 10, 2007, 7:53 PM
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Thank you both for your input. I will forward this thread to her. I see a big argument brewing...
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Oct 11, 2007, 10:14 AM
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This is just one more voice to add in to the mix. Etiquette wise it is impolite to invite anyone to the wedding and not the reception. And, all bridal party members, even the littlest, are invited to the reception.
Perhaps you could have a sitter on site as well. Many are having to resort to this because our guests may bring their children even if they are not invited. Of course, it would have to be your young attendants' choice to go to the sitter or not. Many will spend a little time at the reception and then go to the sitter. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
invite nieces and nephews or not?
