My daughter and son-in-law were quietly married at the courthouse last October and now both families are hosting a post-wedding reception for them. Is it proper to have a money tree at the reception? If not, when is it proper to have one?
No! Please no. The money tree, wishing wells, money dance, anything that has to do with asking guests for money is not proper and most guests find it repulsive. There are some cultural exceptions, but even those are changing due to our blending of cultures. But, the money tree is not and has never been a cultural tradition.
Plus, guests are not expected to give a gift. They weren't invited to the wedding. Some may, so it may be best for the couple to register just in case.
I have to agree with Rebecca. The wedding (ceremony) is the gift giving event, not the reception. Guests should never be asked for gifts of any kind, especially money. If you have the tree there at the reception guests mightl feel obligated to give something. Some may have given a gift anyway but, a good host always considers their guests' comfort. I can imagine that some guests could feel embarrassed iinto giving more than they can afford. Bad idea. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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