My husband and I have decided that we want an adult reception at my daughter's wedding, but the future groom just doesn't want to go along with it. He keeps arguing with us about inviting children. It's causing a lot of friction between him, my daughter and us. There would be about 20 children from both sides of the family and with today's costs, it's just too much plus we feel that kids at a wedding reception are just a nuisance. Many of my friends and family agree. I hate to keep arguing, but he just won't take "no" for an answer. Please HELP!!!!
Nancy Tucker
PRESIDENT - WEDDINGS BEAUTIFUL
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Dear Problems,
To compromise, you could check with your reception facility to see if they can accomodate with a separate room for the children. If not then a room at the hotel where you have your block would work out just fine. Tell guests with children the arrangements have been made for their child. In this situation you would order pizza, chicken fingers, etc. and have a local babysitter stay with them. The guests would probably be delighted to have this service and an opportunity to have an evening out.
This often becomes an issue and is especially hard on guests who have to travel. This requires them to be away from home for several days and most don't want to leave their children with someone for that long. Nancy Tucker President of Weddings Beautiful US http://www.weddingsbeautiful.com
truelove
BRIDE
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I just thought I'd say..
If the groom is having a problem with this (and it IS HIS wedding) then likely other people will too. You may have alot of angry guests and some people may even not come to the wedding because of it. Fellow Bride
RevSusanna
Interfaith Wedding Minister
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Some see children as a nuisance at a wedding, others feel that there it is really not a wedding without children! Differences need to be respected whether they are due to personal preference and/or familial or cultural upbringing. Who is paying for the wedding? Perhaps he and your daughter would be happy to pay for the cost of having the children? Also, where is daughter's opinion in all this?
Speak to your wedding planner regarding your situation. Be honest and open hearted about your situation. They are there to help you. Ask him/her to find the best and most cost effective ways of feeding the children. Perhaps two kiddie tables can be arranged very inexpensively and someone could just order pizza or McDonald's.
You can either stay rooted in your position, which will continue to cause tension, or you can try to build a bridge. It seems to me the most important thing is to focus on building a happy, supportive, harmonious relationship with your future son-in-law....and he to you as well!
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