what to tell venue re:surprise ceremony during "engagement party"
I am planning an engagement party at a local banquet hall. During the party, as a surprise to everyone but a few close friends and the DJ/MC, we are going to exchange vows at the beginning of the party after the cocktail hour. I haven't booked the hall, but I am wondering what they'll think if we do this. The cost for the part is $30pp, wedding reception would cost upwards of $60.pp It is wrong to not tell the hall? Once I have a written contract should I tell them, By the way....". I don't want them to do anything different. I just need them to serve the food (buffett) . As far as I'm concerned, there's no difference., but they always charge more because it's labeled as a "wedding".
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May 3, 2006, 1:15 PM
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Dear Surprise Wedding,
This sounds like a great idea. But, it is probably not a good idea to rent a place for one reason and use it for another.
Why not just tell them that you will require their services for a period of time and for a number of people and not inform them of the nature of the event. This way you are not misleading. You are just renting their services.
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So, I should just say I am having a party with buffet dinner for x # of people and not specify what the party is for? That sounds better than being misleading. I really don't want to be dishonest, but I also don't want to have to pay thousands more just to call the party a wedding.
What would I say if they ask what the party's for?
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May 4, 2006, 5:12 PM
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You could just tell them that it is a surprise party and would rather not have the surprise out of the bag by discussing it.
This is not dishonest or misleading because it is a surprise for your guests. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
what to tell venue re:surprise ceremony during "engagement party"
