I did a search and read several posts on the topic, so I apologize if I missed the advice written somewhere.
My fiance and I are getting married in a private ceremony in fiji, and no guests are invited. Naturally my mother is very sad and feels she is being excluded from the joyous occasion. She is now pushing me to allow her to throw us a reception. Is it improper for the MOB to host and pay for a post-wedding celebration to honor us? For some reason, I feel that IF there is a post-wedding celebration (and I'm not sure I want one), it should really be hosted and payed for by the newlyweds as a way of "making nice" for not inviting anyone. What do you think?
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As a soon-to-be mother of the groom, I understand your mother's feelings. After all, it is one of the biggest milestones in a daughter's/son's life and it's something most parents wouldn't want to miss. If there is absolutely no way that your parents could be there with you, perhaps you could arrange to have the ceremony videotaped to show at the reception back home? Now, on to your question. It is perfectly acceptable, and very generous, of your mother to want to host a reception for the two of you. And, it is refreshing that you don't feel entitled to it! Kudos! I'd allow your mom the thrill of hosting. Have a safe trip, Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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As a Wedding Planner who has handled many of these "post wedding receptions" I agree with the previous answer, allow your mother the joy and happiness of "showing off" the joy and happiness that her daughter has now experienced. I have had these events hosted by all sorts of members of the family, so I think anyone who can and will, should! If you could have a video play on loop while the reception is being held, that would be a great idea for all that were unable to attend. If you could setup a special screening for your mom (before everyone else), that would be even better. Brandi Hamerstone, Owner/Senior Event Planner All Events Planned
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Bravo on your focus! And, I too chime in the positive. It is perfectly appropriate for your mother to host a reception for you. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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