Bride prefers yellow gold but groom presented her with white gold band
Last Christmas my fiance proposed and gave to me a 14k yellow gold ring with 7 small diamonds clustered in a flower shape. It's an inexpensive ring but I have worn it with pride this past year because it is a symbol of our love.
I was very surprised this Christmas when he gave to me a WHITE gold diamond wedding set as a gift and proposed to me again and said that he wanted me to have a proper set. The rings are pretty and more expensive but the problem is that I do not like white gold or silver. I prefer yellow gold. He knows this because I told him if he ever bought jewelry for me to get yellow gold. He has bought several pieces of jewelry for me in yellow gold since we have been together.
I didn't want to hurt his feelings so I told him that I liked them and that they are beautiful but it has dawned on me that I am going to have to wear these the rest of my life and I just don't think that they will grow on me. I have a $500 watch that was a gift from my late husband and I never wear it because it is white gold and I never told him that I didn't like it. I also have other white gold/silver that stays in my jewelry box.
I already want to put my gold inexpensive ring back on and take this one off. Am I abnormal?
I don't want to hurt his feelings. I can't get the nerve up to tell him that I don't like white gold (again).
How do I learn to love the wedding rings that he put his heart into picking them out?
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Re: [confused in GA] Bride prefers yellow gold but groom presented her with white gold band
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Confused in GA,
It may be best to just bite the bullet and discuss this with him. Yes, we should accept gifts with a smile and gratitude. But, this is your wedding ring that you will be wearing for quite some time and he should know how you really feel about it. So, perhaps you could let him know how much you appreciate it and the time he put into finding it and then disclose your preferences.
Re: [confused in GA] Bride prefers yellow gold but groom presented her with white gold band
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I agree with Rebecca. Be honest. Tell him how much you love the first ring her gave you too. That will go a long way to letting him know how much you appreciate him. Perhaps suggest that the two of you return to the jewelry shop and select the ring together. Plan a romantic meal to follow for the ultimate date - the two of you holding hands and gazing at your new ring by candlelight. Ahhh, nice. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Bride prefers yellow gold but groom presented her with white gold band
