My fiancee surprised me with a proposal and a beautiful, cz engagement ring. It was a perfect visual of what I always wanted. I was so surprised, and asked him how he could afford it. I was concerned. He confessed to me immediately after proposing that it was not a diamond, but in fact cubic zirconia, with the promise of a replacement when he could afford it. I was admittedly a little disappointed, but thrilled that he was so honest with me, and always planned on being. The entire weekend after the proposal I was upset and uphappy. I felt like a fraud and I was concerend about who he was trying to impress. I wondered why he didn't just buy a very small diamond, or a simple band. He kept responding that he wanted to get me what he thought I wanted.
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Dear czring,
The reason you are feeling guilty is because you focused on an item and not on the person you supposedly love. The diamond, a real diamond, is not the symbol of engagement. It is not the symbol of love and marriage. Decades ago a diamond company ran an ad campaign telling us it was. We bought it, along with diamond rings we couldn't afford, and they made tons of money.
The CZ ring, obviously, looked real enough to you. So, why are you feeling like a fraud? It doesn't have to be real. Your relationship and his love is. In fact at this time when money is so tight the CZ is probably the wise investment for both of you. Hopefully if all goes well and you spend money wisely, the both of you will have more money for the "real" items you will need to make a home for yourselves after you are married.
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I would say this is just another of life's lessons. Chalk it up to experience and use it to learn. Now that you have all of the information out in the open, have a nice, long, open discussion with your husband-to-be and come to a conclusion you can both feel good about. I think if you speak honestly to one another, you'll solve the problem. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
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