Hello everyone. I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years this January. I told him that I would like to take things to the next level but he says you always want to know when it will happen and I want to make it a surprise. But how long is too long to wait since we have been living together for about a year. I do not want to be pushy but I think that if we are living together and we have been together for about two years maybe he's thinking about doing it or am I just paranoyed about him not proposing? I guess the point is that I love him very much and I don't see why he sould have to wait. By the way I have shown him rings and he giggles. HELP
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Oct 7, 2005, 10:54 AM
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Dear Waiting,
As long as your relationship is healthy and you two are happy, why rush? He seems as if he will propose in time by what he has said. His proposal should be on his terms. And, it sounds like he wants to surprise you. So, relax.
yvonne"instep"
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Oct 7, 2005, 12:28 PM
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There is no prescribed timeline on how long to wait or how long is too long. You may have different timelines as individuals, but rushing someone who is not ready is never advisable. I think you just want to be reassured of his commitment and level of feelings for you more than anything else. Perhaps you can discuss this with him if you're wondering what his feelings and intentions are because if they aren't the same as yours, this might be something you want to know now instead of five years from now. It's perfectly legitimate for you do know where he wants to go with things.
If he feels the same and wants the same things, then perhaps he's just waiting for the time when he thinks he can actually surprise you. If you were reassured that you were both on the same page as far as how you feel about each other and that you want to make a long-term commitment to each other at some point, then maybe you could relax, not talk about it all the time, and then he could go ahead and do what he's saying he wants to do which is to surprise you. Yvonne Kelly, MSW, RSW, Certified Stepfamily Counsellor and Coach, Co-Founder and Director of the Step and Blended Family Institute http://www.stepinstitute.ca
How will I know if he will propose?
Hello everyone. I have been with my boyfriend for almost two years this January. I told him that I would like to take things to the next level but he says you always want to know when it will happen and I want to make it a surprise. But how long is too long to wait since we have been living together for about a year. I do not want to be pushy but I think that if we are living together and we have been together for about two years maybe he's thinking about doing it or am I just paranoyed about him not proposing? I guess the point is that I love him very much and I don't see why he sould have to wait. By the way I have shown him rings and he giggles. HELP
