I did a little searching though here but I couldn't find the answer I was looking for. My boyfriend is in the military and will be moving away in a few months. As much as I'd like to go with him, I can't afford it, and I don't want to marry until he is out of the military in two years. I do, however, want to get engaged to him before he leaves. I know he is going to ask me, but I also wanted to get him a ring, sort of as a surprise, that he could wear as a personal reminder when we are apart. I was looking at getting him a white gold brushed band, with a personal engraving on the inside that means something to the both of us.
My dilemma is, if I get him this ring as an engagement ring, how do I go about the actual wedding band when the time comes around? Is it the same for men as it is for women? I mean, do I get him a smaller band to wear along with the engagement ring after the wedding? I know it's not common, so I don't want to get him a ring if it's not the proper etiquette, please help!
*confused future wife*
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Aug 9, 2007, 1:09 PM
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I would get him some other piece of jewelry and save the band for the wedding. Many men don't like wearing jewelry at all so getting him to wear 2 significant rings may be difficult anyway.
I bought my fiance the diamond engagement watch. It's a little price though. But, he is a watch lover so it was the perfect choice for him and he loves it.
Think about what your guy would love. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
Ms.Smith
Aug 9, 2007, 1:21 PM
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Thanks. I guess I just wanted to get him something for this time we will be spending apart. He used to wear a ring that his family gave him, but he recently gave it to me as a gift, which I now wear around my neck on a chain.
I'd still like to get him a ring..but as you stated, it would be odd having two rings for a man, and he might not like that. Is it wrong to use the engagement ring as a wedding band as well? I'm so new to all this stuff.
your help is appreciated!
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Aug 9, 2007, 1:37 PM
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You could give him a ring now that means whatever you wish for it to mean. For your wedding, you could give him a wedding ring. He could decide if he wishes to transfer the first ring to his right hand or put it away. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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*confused future wife* 
