My girlfriends and I constantly argue about the order you wear your engagement and wedding rings. Logically, if you have a bridal set and at the ceremony you already have on your engagement ring and then he puts on your wedding band it would be the engagement ring first and then the wedding band after right? I don't understand why if you had a set you would wear the engagement ring on the other hand or why you would take it off and then put it back on after the ceremony behind your wedding ring? I have polled this with people I know and Older people view it as I do and my generation thinks the complete opposite.
Generally, you would do one of two things. You'd wear your engagement ring at the ceremony and the wedding ring would rest on top of it. Or, you can leave off the engagement ring altogether or switch it to your right hand making the wedding ring the only ring on that finger during the ceremony. It's really not anything to argue about. What you do is personal preference and what is convenient for you.
Cheers! Rhonda Allen, Bridal Consultant New Beginnings Weddings
Actually, the wedding ring is supposed to be the closest to the heart. (old tradition) So, it would be wedding ring and then engagement ring.
Many women choose sets these days, which means that they wear part of the ring as the engagement ring. Before the wedding, the rings should be soddered together. So, you receive both as your wedding ring.
As for those who have the traditional separate rings. You could do as Rhonda suggests and then just switch the order of the rings after the ceremony.
And, I completely agree that this is nothing to fight about. Some traditions would have you wear the engagement ring on your right hand and the wedding ring on the left. So, choosing one tradition over another or deciding that this is a silly tradition is not a crime.
It is nice to know what the current tradition is here though--peace of mind. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
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