I've met my girlfriend's parents on one occasion; they live on the other side of the states. She and I have talked extensively about marriage and her parents know this.
She is old fashioned and so I am asking for her Fathers blessing before popping the question. Keeping in mind I've only met him once, what would be the best way to do this, telephone call? letter?
Thanks for the help! Jason
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edited by jasonc on Dec 5, 2006, 1:05 PM)
This is very sweet, however, I must caution you about the "asking for permission" portion of your question. What will you do if her father says no? I hate to be the bearer of bad tidings, and it probably won't happen, but why take that chance. Instead, consider letting her parents know how much you care for their daughter and your intentions. Perhaps ending with a, "We hope we have your blessing". This way, you are informing them respectfully, but not really asking and giving them the opportunity to say no.
The best way to do this is, if course, in person. If this is impossible then I think the telephone is the next best option. That is just my opinion, though. I have heard of a man who videotaped himself and sent it off to his fiance's parents. Consider the personality of the parents before you decide the best way to announce your engagement. Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
I couldn't agree more. Asking is problematic. And, it is better face to face. I really like the idea of filming it though. Rebecca Black, Etiquette Now
Proposal etiquette question
I hate to be the bearer of bad tidings, and it probably won't happen, but why take that chance. Instead, consider letting her parents know how much you care for their daughter and your intentions. Perhaps ending with a, "We hope we have your blessing". This way, you are informing them respectfully, but not really asking and giving them the opportunity to say no. 
