What kind of ring advice from the girlfriend is tacky?
Hello,
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and have talked about getting married for awhile now. The first time we discussed the engagement ring, my boyfriend admitted that he was clueless and wanted to go shopping together to make sure I get what I want. While I have to admit I'd prefer an element of surprise to the proposal and ring, I am not opposed to his idea. His sister, however, told him that he should find out what I like and she would go with him to help pick out the ring and help ensure that the proposal would be somewhat of a surprise. She told him I could even send her specific rings I like. While she's a sweetheart and I appreciate her concern, I don't necessarily feel like that is the right answer, either.
Here's the deal... I happen to be a jewelry-lover and have educated myself on a lot of different topics, one of them being diamonds. I've also browsed the web and local jewelers for rings and have seen some great options, of various different prices. I am not looking for a huge rock, but a good quality diamond that is within my boyfriend's price range. Now for my actual question, would it be tacky for me to give him some information on diamonds (like the 4 C's) to educate him, and include a list of worthy web sites and links to ring options? I don't want to seem presumptuous in this matter at all, but my boyfriend already admitted he wanted my help choosing the ring and doing this would enable him to choose from multiple rings and propose when he wanted to without me suspecting exactly what was coming. I think it would also lessen the pressure on him because he could be sure that I would love the ring.
What do you think? Would it just be better in the end to browse the web and jewelry stores together or does my idea have some merit? Thank you in advance for your words of wisdom on this matter!
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Re: [southerngirl99] What kind of ring advice from the girlfriend is tacky?
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If this were me, I'd just let my guy select the ring he feels suits me based on his understanding of my personality and style. The best part about getting gifts is getting that little window into what the giver thinks of me. But, this is you, not me.
I'm not sure (with all of the information you've given) how this proposal could possibly have any surprise factor, with the exception of being surprised by the style of ring. Now, again, from what you've described, this may not be a good surprise for you. It seems as though, if he selects a ring that is not up to your standards, you'll be disaappointed. So, my opinion, shop for the ring together and, once purchased, plan a romantic evening or weekend away. Anything you can do to make the moment memorable.
Best of luck, Top Wedding Questions Forum Moderator - "Write your sorrows in the sand, your blessings in stone".
What kind of ring advice from the girlfriend is tacky?
